Interesting article on NUSSU Hooked..

Well forgot to check the course website of one of my modules.. turns out there is a lecture at 10am today.. i thot it was on Friday as it usually was.. nvm.. :p

Received an email from the lecturer from another module at 11am then the lecture scheduled at 3pm will be cancelled.. good good..

Well.. came by this interesting article found in the NUSSU E-magazine, Hooked.. seems pretty related to the recent NUS lecture proposal saga..

Dear Miss-Know-It-All,

Do you know the feeling when you really like someone but you’re too much of a wuss to do anything about it? Well that about sums up the way I’ve been feeling this whole semester. There’s this chick in my lecture that I totally dig. She’s pretty and her dressing’s way hot. I so want to ask her out or even talk to her. But I can’t seem to pluck up any courage whatsoever when I’m around her. I don’t even think she knows I exist! What do you suppose I do? Do you think I should just go up and ask her out? Or come up with some lame pick-up line maybe? Or should I just talk to her, start it off as friends? I don’t know what to do! And I don’t think I have the guts to anyway. Is there some other way? Maybe an e-mail or is that too psycho-stalker style? In fact, I’ve heard about some guys declaring their feelings in lectures like after their presentation and stuff or pakat with the lecturer. Should I try that? Do you think that’ll work?

Unloved

Dear Unloved,

Your last option of trying out what I call ‘lecture theatre proposals’ is frightening and sad, to think that NUS guys have got it so wrong in getting us girls. While we appreciate that you are trying to be unique, I must say it borders on being humiliating for both parties.
Firstly, let Miss Know-It-All share a story I heard directly from my friend, who was in the lecture theatre and is a friend of the one who received one of these ‘lecture theatre proposals’ (*grin, you get the picture!). It’s a true tale and very scandalous! Well, okay… More disastrous than scandalous.
Miss Purple Sweater (name changed for *duh reasons) is a pretty business school student who (unfortunately) caught the eye of a guy who pretty much thinks like you do on the ways of female courtship.
After his presentation, this romantic Romeo (a year 4 arts student) gushes his liking for a girl in a purple sweater telling her that he really likes her dressing and that he hopes to get to know her better and requests to take her out to lunch (after the lecture presumably). The little downfall to this pretty full-proof plan would probably be the fact that
a) He didn’t care to mention this to the lecturer, who in typical Singaporean-old-school fashion reprimanded the poor Romeo and in addition to that took down his and the girl’s name down (for what we have no idea!)
b) The poor girl was so taken by surprise and shocked and devastated by the suddenness of things (and not to mention the horrible humiliation) by this, -- did I mention sudden? very impulsive professing of liking to her plus the fact that she somehow inadvertently gets into trouble with the lecturer for no apparent reason and not to mention gets a whole new level of popularity (and sympathy) that is entirely unwanted!
So it wasn’t really quite surprising that the girl rejected him and if she could, would choose to never come to school anymore or would have at that moment, preferred to have a paper bag over her head.

Later on the same day, during an engineering lecturer, some science guy decided to declare his affections on power point as well, and even got the lecturer to make a speech on his behalf. Needless to say, the poor girl was mortified by the sudden unwanted attention. Miss Know-It-All even got to speak to this lecturer to kay po a bit. The lecturer said that he didn’t expect for this to go so far and sounded regretful that he let it happen.
You see, it did no good. Both girls rejected the guys (they’re nice girls, but you can’t force them to want you just because you made a grand gesture of ‘lecture theatre romance’).
So, what can we learn from these two incidents?

1) DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT TRY THIS AGAIN unless you thrive on getting rejected publicly and in some sick, masochistic way like to see someone cringe and traumatized by your declaration of love.
2) Even with the help of your lecturers, it’s no sure route to success.
3) Try smaller steps than grand gestures.
4) Be yourself. If you’re shy and can’t go up to her/him, going about it in the exact opposite way is not going to help!

So dear ‘Unloved’, clearly you’re not the only one out there who’s trying to get that girl. I hope you really don’t try this stunt of being Mr. Romeo because it’s tried and tested and the current rate of success is one big fat zero, nada, zilch geddit? Instead of publicly humiliating yourself and the girl, the best way to go is personally and from the heart. Girls can’t bear to say no to a sweetie who’s sincere. But don’t be too intense all she’ll just think you’re psycho.
You must be thinking, "don’t girls want elaborate, on the spur, spontaneous gestures?" Well as much as they may be flattering, they’re only for show and are clearly superficial. In fact if you do get the girl that way, it just goes to show that she’s into getting all the attention and likes her ego being inflated. So, if you really like her, save the grand gestures for when you do get her and surprise her with your spontaneity when you’re together, but for now, stick to no-frills methods and you’re sure to clinch her (we hope)!